Bringing the hidden to light is an important part of psychotherapy, sometimes achieved through focus on intellectual reflections. But in recent years, mindfulness-based therapies emphasize awareness of how feelings and physical sensations are related. It is enlightening to notice what happens in the body when we feel strong emotions. As an example of how lack […]
Sex and Romance in Long Term Relationships
Harboring fantasies about someone else while happily coupled isn’t unusual. In most relationships, whether of two years, 20, or more, one or both partners will likely experience fleeting moments of imagining how exciting life would be with a different person. This could begin innocently while flirting in the break room, or having coffee with a […]
How to Keep Your Marriage Healthy While Coping with Chronic Illness
Most marriages will be confronted with challenges. How we cope, make meaning from, and find benefit in challenges affects our overall satisfaction in our marriage. One of these biggest challenges marriages face is health In Sickness and In Health Till Death do us part We take our marriage vows in innocence and with deeply felt […]
Expressing Fondness and Admiration for a Strong Foundation in Marriage
Healthy relationships are built on a strong foundation. In Northern California, where I live, houses are constructed on a solid footing to protect them in an earthquake. If a home is built on soft soil without proper engineering, strong seismic waves will cause a lot of damage. One way that a building is secured is […]
Psychologists Need Self-Care Too: Professional ethics
Who Helps the Helper? Self-care and Professional Ethics Most psychologists get into this profession because we get deep satisfaction from helping people. But who helps the helpers? What about us, anyway? We sit for hour after hour, year after year, listening to our patients’ troubles. We help them make sense of what brings them to our office. […]
